Stacy and I are down to less than two weeks before our big family wedding here in Chicago! We are FREAKING out with all the last minute details. As we say, we are “all wedding, all the time” right now. In other words, we have no other life. All of our time is consumed with getting everything done!
Everyone who has gone through this has said there will be snafus with the planning and the wedding day. And we are finding that is true. For example, we just found out that our stage where we’ll be standing for the ceremony is 7 feet deep. Well…our Chuppah structure is 10’ x 10’! Now we have to figure out what our alternative is. We talked about scrapping the structure and sewing the material to four posts. That poses the problem of how we hold it taut so that the material doesn’t fall on those of us under it. I planned on sewing the Chuppah. So, it’s up to me, really, to figure this out! Okay, I learned basic sewing in Home Ec over 25 years ago. Ugh…I guess I will end up calling my mom and asking her advice. That’s what moms are for, right?
We are making jewelry for members of our bridal party. That’s not going smoothly either! I think that will work itself out, though. We just printed the programs and I’m hoping no information changes. My head is spinning with all the little details.
Through all this, I’ve only had two “wedding-stress-out” dreams. They both involved being in the car on the way to the venue and realizing I hadn’t written my vows. Considering how busy we are with all these other details, I hope these dreams don’t come true!
Meanwhile, our marriage certificate from Iowa came in and we ran to the Social Security Administration to apply for new social security cards with our new last names. Those cards came in yesterday, so we are trying to change our names as quickly and efficiently as possible. Stacy just went to the bank and she said it went quickly and smoothly. I’m going to go tomorrow!
So much excitement!!
Next blog will surely include photos from our big day!
About the Authors/Queerlywed.com
Melissa is the co-founder of Queerly Wed, a new website dedicated to helping LGBTQ couples plan their big day. She is an activist within the LGBTQ Community and has volunteered her services at many grassroots organizations over the years. Melissa is also an avid cyclist and won two silver medals at Gay Games VII, which was held in Chicago in 2006. She is also a lifelong student and enjoys studying Latin-American culture, photography and languages.
Stacy Jill Jacobs
Stacy is the co-founder of Queerly Wed, a new website dedicated to helping LGBTQ couples plan their big day. Stacy is a writer, marketing nerd, and web geek grrl all wrapped up into one package. Stacy has worked in the interactive field for many years including roles at eToys (US & UK) and Ticketmaster. Stacy became a professional queer when in 2005, she served as the Ticketing Manager for Gay Games VII. You can catch Stacy on her website at www.stacyjilljacobs.com or on Twitter at @StacyJill